BABUSHKINāS
Essays
TOXIC MASCULINITY IS SICKENING US
This guy in France who drugged and raped his wife continually ā and the 50-odd Frenchmen who allegedly joined in over the years, shoving their dicks into a slack, unconscious woman ā what is that? What kind of consciousness wants to do that, let alone gives the conscience permission to do it?
Those thousands and thousands of men who ogle pre-adolescent girls on Instagram, fostering 500,000 āinappropriateā interactions every day, says the New York Times ā who are they? What happened to them to make them sexually turned on by children?
EXCUSE ME WHILE I PONTIFICATE
āAll through the day: I me mine I me mine I me mine.ā āGeorge Harrison
As I anticipate Yom Kippur landing with a -plotz!-, Iām thinking about that cartoon in which the waiter asks the diners after theyāve been served their plates: āIs anything all right?ā
These days, nothing much seems all right to me, outside my golden bubble. Weāre murdering our planet; weāre spending billions and billions on Artificial Intelligence, despite having seen The Terminator three times apiece; weāre adjusting to depression, isolation, conformity, and anxious chatter so beautifully that we donāt even go out to movie theaters, let alone bowling alleys, any more; and we are lied to constantly, yet remain naive enough to allow the repetition to seduce at least some of us into believing that IT MUST BE SO.
āSonderā Revelations
When I was a child of about six, I was on a bus with my mother, watching passengers sit, stand, and get on and off. All of a sudden I was struck by the realization that each person I was looking at had a personality, a brain, an entire life behind their face. Each was as full and genuine a person as I . . .
Spear through the heart
ā¢ A Jaguar sedan is passing us on the left. Handsome black car. Siri tells us that 21,000 of them are sold in the USA each year.
āAsk Siri about real jaguars.ā āWhat about real jaguars, Siri?ā After a few false starts, Siri determines that only eight wild jaguars have been spotted in the USA over the past thirty years, all thought to be immigrants from Mexico.
Sanctuary! Sanctuary!
Nearly two years ago I wrote here about my involvement with a volunteer circle of about twenty people who were working together to enable two refugee families from Afghanistan to settle in our neck of the woods.
Well, that volunteer circle is about to dissolve its bank account. Our refugees have been granted asylum and have secured places to live, jobs and start-up businesses, driving licenses and vehicles, medical insurance, food stamps, and more . . .
Falling off the hierarchical ladder
In our increasingly authoritarian world, Iāve been thinking a lot about social hierarchy.
My interest has been especially stoked by the seeming indestructibility of Donald Trumpās charisma for that mass of people who think heās the messiah. How does it happen that vulgar, monstrous, narcissistic, ridiculous men become world leaders and world destroyers, over and over?
My contemplation of hierarchy was also provoked by the Academy Awards, a spectacle that I am always happy not to watch: the nauseating mixture of liberalism and show-off wealth, the Marie Antoinettishness of it all. I donāt enjoy the foolishness of seeing artworks ranked, and I have no desire to idolize actors, only to enjoy their work . . .
Mercy, Mercy Me
In my years of reading Jewish texts, one particular teaching has particularly popped for me, the atheist, because it encapsulates what I believe to be an actual reality principle.
Iām talking about Judaismās recognition that justice must be balanced with mercy or the world will not endure. The Talmud expresses this in several passages. Here are three:
āWhen the Holy One was about to create Adam, he saw both the righteous and the wicked who were to issue from him. So he said: If I create him, the wicked will issue from him; if I do not create him, how are the righteous to be born? What did the Holy One do? He diverted the way of the wicked from before his sight, partnered the quality of mercy with himself . . . and then created him.ā (From the midrash collection, Genesis Rabbah, as translated in Bialik and Ravnitzkyās indispensable The Book of Legends.)
Taking a stroll in ghost-town america
Iām in the Confederacy once again, visiting my 6-year-old grandson in South Carolina on the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday weekend. En route this past Wednesday, we stopped the car to stretch our legs in a little town off Interstate 81 in eastern Pennsylvania. Since the day was blustery, we took our stretch in a shopping mall.
Like many shopping malls these days ā including the one half an hour from my home in Ulster County, NY ā this one was eerily deserted, with fewer than one out of ten of its stores occupied. Dimly lit, with barely any foot-traffic, the place felt post-apocalyptic, neutron-bombish ā this less than three hours from the wealth and bustle of New York City.
Killers vs. murderers
It dates me to say Iāve been writing or co-writing editorials advocating a two-state peace arrangement between Israel and the Palestinians for over forty years: during the 1978 Camp David Accords (āWhen the self-governing authority in the West Bank and Gaza is established and inaugurated, the transitional period of five years will beginā); through the years of Peace Now activism in the 1980s; during the Madrid Conference (1991), the Oslo Accords (1993), and Bill Clintonās Camp David Summit (2000); following the Arab Peace Initiative of 2002 and the Road Map for Peace and Geneva Accord of 2003; and so forth and so on.
Each little essay made virtually the same points: that Israelās security and soul required the just treatment of the Palestinian people and the establishment of their own state; that Palestinian terrorism, and the deep hatred and distrust that it bred among Israelis, was the ugliest, worst possible strategy for ending the occupation; that Israelās land-greed and violations of international law could only produce more horror; that both peoples, Jews and Palestinians, had wholly legitimate claims to national status, as recognized by the United Nations way back in 1947.
THe suffering of the prophet
I was eleven years old when Martin Luther King, Jr. made his glorious āI Have a Dreamā speech at the Lincoln Memorial on August 28, 1963. My parents went to Washington to attend; I watched on television at home with my grandmother.
As the child of communists (by then, former communists), I understood the basics of what those thousands and thousands of people were demonstrating about ā but like the demonstration itself, the issues stood at a distance. Yes, we had spent my first four years of life in the Black neighborhood of St. Albans, Queens, where my parents and several other leftwing couples had bought homes in order to try to stem āwhite flight,ā but by the time the March on Washington took place, we had been living in a Jewish-majority neighborhood for seven years and had hardly any contact with people of color.
My New adventure
Since retiring five years ago, Iāve often said to my beloved wife, Whatās next? Our half-century together has been punctuated by regular adventures that have always revived our mojo and strengthened our bond: leaving New York City, buying a house, adopting children, performing together, traveling cross-country and overseas, creating books and artworks, learning music, helping refugees, and so on. These and other experiences, popping out from our hard-working lives every few years, gave us a sense of the extraordinary that permeated the everyday.
But what now, in our seventies? Iām not interested in the time and effort it would take to start a new professional career; we havenāt the money to do something monumental like buy a boat, take off in a fancy camper van, or start a business; we are anchored in place by close friendships and family; Iām too cynical and lazy to throw myself into all-out political/volunteer work. Hmm . . .
Non-Human Beings
Iāve just had a horrible week ā my dear wife was in the hospital for six days, my daughter 1,000 miles away was having a crisis of her own, Trump was terrorizing the rest of us, and the rain (and hail!) wouldnāt stop for more than an hour at a time.
I felt anxious and despondent until I took a walk down my country road during one of those hour-long breaks from the rain. There in the canyon stream stood a grey heron, looking for a meal, then looking at me.
Ever since I moved to this house thirty-six years ago, herons have qualified as a good omen. Their slow, graceful wingstrokes always catch my attention ā Ahh, itās a heron! ā and they have flown over my house, my car, and my head at auspicious times. This latest sighting awakened and cheered me, restoring me to a more hopeful feeling about the days to come.
What I USED TO BELIEVE
The illustration at left lists a few of the beliefs I held at various stages of life. While I was never an insistent or even confident believer ā Iāve always been more of a fence-straddler ā I did think in certainties, especially as a young man, and was convinced that the worldās complexities could be parsed, understood, and reordered.
I also thought that the Cultural Revolution in China was a fine idea that might produce a truly transformed society in which everyone would wear the same outfit and feel good about it; that āenlightenmentā is an actually attainable and enduring state of being; that dialectical materialism is a profound philosophical concept that I just didnāt quite grasp (keep trying!); that homosexuality has psychological trauma at its root; that nurture far outweighs nature in shaping human beings; that capitalism is the central cause of human suffering and alienation.
Charlie chaplinās dog
The first time I saw a Charlie Chaplin film, I was a temporary college drop-out, age 18, and was crashing, as we used to say, with an elementary school friend enrolled at Brandeis University. The campus held a weekly outdoor film screening, and I got to see āModern Times,ā Chaplinās brilliantly funny 1936 film about industrialization, poverty, love, and resilience. The movie utterly inspired me as an artist and an activist, and I wrote a pompous letter to my parents making all kinds of declarations about my future.
Ever since, Charlie Chaplin has been one of my artistic and humanistic touchstones, to whom I return for inspiration every couple of years. His empathy for the working poor, his unabashed scorn for cops and for the pretensions of wealth, his endless take-downs of macho masculinity, his sweet sentimentality as a music composer, and his balletic beauty as a performer, add up to make his movies timelessly relevant, bittersweet, and hilarious.
Our Elsie IS GOne
Our beautiful, devoted, gentle giant, Elsie, died on Sunday evening. After an amazing day of walking and chasing rocks in the Wallkill River for an hour and a half, she came home with us and her respiratory system suddenly collapsed. We brought her to the hospital and learned that her white blood cell count was zero and her lungs were 70% dysfunctional. It was so, so hard to believe ā Elsie seemed to have had such a run of good days, with walks and good meals and lots of contentment ā but the vet described what she was facing, which was basically like drowning. He was blunt, he was honest, and he advised euthanizing her . . .
O, MY AMERICA
O, my sad, sad America . . .
With fifty million working people, 32 percent of the labor force, earning less than $15 per hour.
Jeez, thatās a whole lot of poor people . . .
I Have no faith. But I Have a TIcket.
āOur rabbis taught: When Adam, on the day of his creation, saw the setting of the sun, he said, āAlas, it is because I have sinned that the world around me is becoming dark; the universe will now become again void and without form ā this then is the death to which I have been sentenced from Heaven!ā So he sat up all night fasting and weeping and Eve was weeping opposite him. When, however, dawn broke, he said: āThis is the way of the world!ā He then arose and offered up a bullock . . . ā āAvodah Zarah 8a
Back in my working days, when dusk came and the world outside my window became a silhouette, and I knew that it was time to stop being safely absorbed in my work and to join the what-shall-we-do here-and-now, I usually had to pass through a zone of dread. I may have drowned out the feeling with news on the radio, or sidled away from it with a glass of wine ā but there was still a tug at my guts when I stopped working, stopped earning my right to exist . . .
Meanwhile, in the Confederacy . . .
Every other month or so, Susan and I make a two-day drive to South Carolina, with our giant dog Elsie in the back seat, to visit our daughter, who has lived there for fifteen years, and our grandson Max, who is a touchingly empathetic six-year-old. Itās an exhausting, thousand-mile-each-way trip for us, but it usually results in a very sweet visit. Weāre lucky enough to own a small apartment in Columbia, the state capital, which is a relatively āliberatedā blue town within this red state, and apart from playing with Max we take many walks with Elsie on the SC University campus, which is a veritable arboretum, and in our Five Points neighborhood, which is full of mansions and gigantic shade trees.
This time around, however, Iām in the middle of reading a classic history book about the aftermath of slavery in America: Been in the Storm So Long by Leon F. Litwack (1929-2021). A Pulitzer Prize- and National Book Award-winner in 1979, the book has brought me deeply into the experience of people liberated by the Civil War from a dozen or more generations of enslavement . . .
A WORD ABOUT PEACE
Iām an avid reader of Foreign Affairs, a 101-year-old publication produced by the Council on Foreign Relations. Of all the magazines I subscribe to ā New Yorker, Harpers, Atlantic, New York Review of Books, Smithsonian ā I tend to hang onto Foreign Affairs the longest (each edition is 200+ pages) and read it most exhaustively. It features the voices of all sorts of government officials, advisors, and political scholars from various universities and think tanks around the world. Most of the writers tend to be internationalists (with an occasional nationalist and autocrat thrown in); among the Americans, there are centrist Democrats and centrist Republicans, ārealistsā (guided more by practical questions of political power than by moral sentiment),and people privy to inner-circle expertise and information. Reading Foreign Affairs is like watching The West Wing or Borgen ā except these articles are the real article. These people shape world events.
150 Million Jews!
A friend of mine who works in the civil and human rights field in New York City recently asked a social-work class he was teaching: What percentage of Americans are Jewish? The studentsā answers ranged from 20 to over 50 percent! The class of would-be social workers and organizers was a mixed lot, about 70 percent white, he reported. Race and ethnicity did not seem to affect the answers; there were even two half-Jews in the class, who also gave preposterously high estimates of Americaās Jewish population. (And yes, my friend said, they all understand statistics.)